The unspoken injury of car accidents

We all know the common injuries from a car accident; back, neck, broken bones, etc....what we don't often know about, realize or talk about is the injury that happens to a marriage after the car accident.

Car accident injuries can last a long time.  At first the spouse is understanding, caring and willing to do everything while you recover.

When the stress of your injuries, stress of loss of income, stress of medical bills, stress of "doing it all" will eventually cause problems in a marriage.

It is hard for the healthy spouse to do everything.  It is even harder for the injured spouse who is used to doing things...watching others take care of them.

It is hard for the healthy spouse to take the children to all their school events, recreational events, appointments.  It is even harder for the injured spouse to miss these events.

Resentment begins to build from both spouses.....the healthy one resents the injured one because they have to "do it all" and the injured one resents the healthy one because they can do it all.

In my personal experience my husband was very caring.......in the beginning.  Then he became very resentful.  Then he started to tell me to quit "exaggerating" my injuries.  Then he went from not believing I was ever hurt...I just wanted to lie around for eight months.  The he went OUT THE DOOR.

There is a saying "Your friends know you when times are good, You know your friends are when times are bad."  I guess this will work in a marriage also.

The worst thing that you can do is stop communicating with each other and start complaining to others.  If you are the healthy spouse try to understand that the injured spouse has to deal with the PAIN of the accident and deal with the inability to help out after the accident.  If you are the injured spouse understand that the feelings of the healthy spouse is normal.  Talk, communicate and be there for each other.

I have to tell you about Carol Zeisler at Zeisler & Associates, Attorney At Law, PC.  She understands the stress you are going through at home.  She listens to her clients.  She understands her clients.  She is there to help her clients outside of the "legal" aspects of a car accident.  Visit their website for more information.