Showing posts with label don't laugh at me. Show all posts
Showing posts with label don't laugh at me. Show all posts

Monday, September 3, 2012

Part of the problem or part of the SOLUTION! Little things YOU can do

Going down roads is difficult no matter where or how you travel.  It is up to each of us to travel a road that we can travel back down with our head held high.  Too often we are cruel or rude to people without knowing the real story.  The last few posts I have placed some very powerful songs; Don't Laugh at Me, The Road YOU leave Behind and the Chain of Love.  All these songs fit today's story.  You can make a difference in someone's life.  You can be the person who saves someone's life.  Whatever road you choose to take please remember you will have to travel that road again....so make the scenery beautiful!

Stories like this, always have a way of putting the right perspective on life.


Jean Thompson stood in front of her fifth-grade class on the very first day of school in the fall and told the children a lie. Like most teachers, she looked at her pupils and said that she loved them all the same, that she would treat them all alike. And that was impossible because there in front of her, slumped in his seat on the third row, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard.Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed he didn't play well with the other children, that his clothes were unkept and that he constantly needed a bath. And Teddy was unpleasant.It got to the point during the first few months that she would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's and then marking the F at the top of the paper biggest of all. Because Teddy was a sullen little boy, no one else seemed to enjoy him, either.At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child's records and put Teddy's off until last. When she opened his file, she was in for a surprise. His first-grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is a bright, inquisitive child with a ready laugh." "He does his work neatly and has good manners...he is a joy to be around."His second-grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is an excellent student well-liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle."His third-grade teacher wrote, "Teddy continues to work hard but his mother's death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best but his father doesn't show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren't taken."Teddy's fourth-grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and sometimes sleeps in class. He is tardy and could become a problem."By now Mrs. Thompson realized the problem, but Christmas was coming fast. It was all she could do, with the school play and all, until the day before the holidays began and she was suddenly forced to focus on Teddy Stoddard.Her children brought her presents, all in beautiful ribbon and bright paper, except for Teddy's, which was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper of a scissored grocery bag. Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents.Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one-quarter full of cologne. She stifled the children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume behind the other wrist. Teddy Stoddard stayed behind just long enough to say, "Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my mom used to."After the children left she cried for at least an hour. On that very day, she quit teaching reading, writing, and speaking. Instead, she began to teach children. Jean Thompson paid particular attention to one they all called "Teddy."As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. On days where there would be an important test, Mrs. Thompson would remember that cologne. By the end of the year he had become one of the smartest children in the class and...well, he had also become the "pet" of the teacher who had once vowed to love all of her children exactly the same.A year later she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling her that of all the teachers he'd had in elementary school, she was his favorite. Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy.He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still his favorite teacher of all time.Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would graduate from college with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs. Thompson she was still his favorite teacher.Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still his favorite teacher, but that now his name was a little longer. The letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, M.D.The story doesn't end there. You see, there was yet another letter that Spring. Teddy said he'd met this girl and was to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering...well, if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit in the pew usually reserved for the mother of the groom. And guess what, she wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. And I bet on that special day, Jean Thompson smelled just like...well, just like the way Teddy remembered his mother smelling on their last Christmas together.THE MORAL: You never can tell what type of impact you may make on another's life by your actions or lack of action. Consider this fact in your venture thru life.  (Thank you RogerKnapp.comhttp://www.rogerknapp.com/inspire/teacher.htm for this story) 
You can save a life!!!  Need motivation to do so?  Watch and listen....you can do it.  
"Be the change you want to see in the world"  ~Mahatma Gandhi

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Monday, August 20, 2012

Part of the problem or part of the SOLUTION: Bullying

Before you read this click this link and listen to the song while your read.



What is a Bully?  What happens when a child is bullied?  





This is a growing problem with our children.  Do we blame the bully?  Do we blame the parent?  Do we blame society?  I believe that we all have some blame here....Even if you do not have a child.  How many times have we "watched" someone being bullied and did NOTHING!  If we do nothing than nothing will change.  
The following is taken from Dr. Phil's website about Bullying.  I love his approach and his advice so this is word for word on what he says:
Warning Signs of BullyingBullying is:
Intentional, aggressive behavior
Imbalance of power
Repeated over time
Physical, verbal intimidation
Exclusion
Cyber harassment
Warning signs that your child may be the victim of bullying:
1. Makes up excuses not to go to school
2. Is often angry, sad or depressed, withdrawn, self-loathing and emotionally erratic
3. Frequently hurt by a particular person or group of people
4. Frequently picked on in the presence of other people
5. Mistakes are turned into a big deal by someone
6. Belongings are often stolen or taken
7. Always being confronted with lies/rumors
How parents encourage bullying in their own children:
  • Exercise absolute control over child
  • Threaten the child with spankings or other violence
  • Attempt to humiliate or embarrass the child as a way to punish them
  • Rule by fear
  • Push competition and contest too much
  • Teach their child that mistakes are unacceptable
  • Tell their child what to say, do or think 
If your child is being picked on by a bully, sit down with him or her and go over this list of Do's and Don'ts to keep them safe: 
1. Don't get into a fistfight with a bully or try to retaliate in other ways.
2. Don't believe the insults about you.
3. Don't overestimate how much power a bully has over you.
4. Don't think that bullying will stop if you ignore it.
5. Don't waste time in places online where bullies target you.
6. Don't be afraid to think of new ways to solve the conflict.
7. Don't believe you deserve to be picked on.
8. Do get real about bullying and how it makes you feel.
9. Do get angry, but keep anger under control.
10. Do write down how you feel.
11. Do learn to say and believe good things about yourself.
12. Do speak confidently when telling a bully not to physically touch you.
13. Do work on developing at least one good relationship with a classmate, neighbor and/or older child.
14. Do walk or run away if a bully tries to hurt you.

We can all do something or we can all do nothing.  If you choose to do nothing remember these children, whether they are the bully or the victim, will be running our Country when we are old.  It takes each of us to stop this problem.  

Simple steps to help:
If you are the parent of the bully STEP UP and help your child.  
If you are the parent of the victim STEP IN and help.
If you witness a bully and a victim STEP OVER to them and stop it.


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